I was surprised when my reader survey last year uncovered so many of you wanted to talk about what happens when marriage gets messy. At first I simply filed it away, claiming it wasn’t really my “niche.”
The truth is I didn’t feel equipped to take on such a tough topic.
I still don’t.
But God kept nudging me, so I’ve teamed up with some ladies who have accrued a lot of wisdom from Him concerning marriage. I’m excited to bring you their stories to help you make your marriage into less of a mess and more of a masterpiece!
Top 10 Reasons Marriage Gets Messy
Together, we polled our readers on Facebook and asked what most made marriage feel messy. Here are the top ten reasons your marriage might get messy.
7. Outside Influences
4. Misaligned Priorities
3. Yoked Unequally
2. Communication Breakdown
and the #1 reason marriage gets messy is because God Isn’t Invited
What We Can Do About It
So, for the next ten weeks we are going to tackle these tough topics here and in a closed Facebook group just for us. Sometimes you’ll read what God is teaching me. Other times I will share powerful testimonies and encouragment from women who have walked through these fires and come out on the other side stronger. My prayer is that this series will equip and encourage you with Bible based wisdom to strengthen your marriage and transform it into the masterpiece God created it to be.
God used the metaphor of marriage to explain His Son’s relationship to the Church. That should tell you how strongly He believes in the institution. And I think it is precisely why the enemy is coming after marriage so hard. If Satan can taint the goodness of marriage, he can cast doubt on our relationship with our Savior, too.
Relationships are tough enough to begin with, but when you put two sinful people under the same roof until death do us part you’ve got to know there’ll be trouble. Yet few of us are prepared or equipped to face those challenges the day we say, “I do.”
Let’s change that and be a generation of women who stand up and say, “No more!” We can link arms and claim the power of God to redeem our own marriages and those of every other couple around the world. Let’s stop fighting against our spouses and start fighting for our marriages.
There is no MESS in marriage God cannot make into a MASTERPIECE.
Will every marriage be restored this side of heaven? Probably not. But that’s not because God can’t or isn’t willing to redeem them. It is an unfortunate side-effect of living in this broken and sinful world.
Please, please, PLEASE hear me on this. If you or your children feel unsafe or are being abused, leave and find shelter. Immediately. Here are some links for shelter locators:
Beyond the Top 10
Did you notice what didn’t make the top ten list? Children, deployments for the military wives, redeployments, moving, mid-life crisis, sex, illness, past hurts, anything else stressful, that word that makes us all cringe “submission,” and a whole host of other things that make marriage hard.
We’ll be talking about a lot of those things in our Facebook group, as well as why marriage is worth the work and other encouragment. In the group you’ll find a safe place to share your heart, hurts, and hopes for your marriage and receive, wise words, actionable advice, transformational testimony, and powerful prayer.
As if you needed another reason to join the group, I’m gathering some of the resources we’ll reference here to do a giveaway at the end of this series – think of it as an early Christmas present to your marriage!
We’ll wrap us this series on December 8th with a post chock full of resources you can take with you into the new year to make your marriage the Masterpiece God meant it to be!
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For more encouragement please join the discussions on these fabulous blog link ups – Suzanne Eller, Thought Provoking Thursday, Susan B. Mead, Faith Filled Friday, Grace and Truth, Faith and Fellowship Friday, Grace and Truth Friday, Good Morning Monday, Soul Survival, Monday Musings, Rah Rah Link Up, Tell His Story, Woman to Woman Wednesday, Women With Intention Wednesday, Sitting Among Friends, Testimony Tuesday, Planting Roots, and Fresh Market Friday.