Reduce Rejection's Reign

Reduce Rejection’s Reign and Reclaim Your Rightful Place

In this week’s great exchange, we’re going to reduce rejection’s reign in our lives and replace it by reclaiming our rightful place in God’s heavenly kingdom.


Rejection Reigns EarlyRejection

Like many of our other messes, we typically learn this one early in life. When we aren’t picked first or second or even third for dodge ball. When that cute boy asks another girl to the dance. When we aren’t chosen to sit at the cool kids lunch table. After that first sting of rejection, we’re more apt to see it and suspect it, even when it isn’t there. And to fear it before it happens.

The fear of rejection is what keeps us from raising our hand with an answer in Bible study, volunteering to share our testimony, or walking up to a group of moms at the playground. It robs us of the community God created for us and teaches us to hide our uniqueness from society. The fear of rejection becomes the reason we don’t share our gifts with the world. Rejection can even cause us to compromise our values and identity in search of acceptance. And if we let it the enemy continue deceiving us, it will keep the world from seeing God through us.

We crave acceptance because we were created for community, but the more we crave it, the more power we allow rejection to have over us.

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What I Learned from Rejection

A few years ago, I went to a big conference and pitched a book proposal to editors from two major publishing houses. One rejected my idea outright, “Nobody wants to read that.” The other took my full proposal and after several agonizing weeks determined my platform wasn’t large enough for their standards. I don’t know which was worse; having my idea rejected outright or being rejected after careful analysis. Neither felt good.

I could easily have curled up in a ball and quit writing altogether. But that isn’t what I sensed God calling me to do. Hindsight being what it is, I discovered God’s protection and His preparation in that rejection. I wasn’t ready and neither were those words. Instead of the book deal I hoped for, I gained some great perspective on rejection.

When faced with man’s rejection, look for God’s protection.

I find immense comfort in knowing God allows every rejection we face and uses them all for His good purposes. My rejection by man, is not a call to quit using the gifts God has given me. My rejection by man is not permission to lower God’s standards. My rejection by man is not rejection by God. But rather, it is an invitation to lean in to the acceptance available to me through Christ.

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Jesus Endured Rejection

Jesus was well acquainted with the pain and suffering of rejection, too. In fact, His rejection fulfilled prophecy.

“He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain.

Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted.

But He was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. ”

Isaiah 55:3-5

He was rejected by the very people He came to save. And two centuries later, people continue to reject Him, not realizing their every longing can only be fulfilled through a relationship with Him. Yet He never wavered from doing God’s will here on earth. He understood the eternal nature of His earthly mission. Christ’s rejection secures our eternal acceptance. Because of His rejection, we will reign with Him eternally.

Avoid Rejection

And not only that, but He sees our suffering and sympathizes with us. Being fully human He was acquainted with the temptation to please people, meet their expectations, and do what would earn him earthly acceptance. But He never swayed from His mission.

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Jesus’ Rejection Secures Our Eternal Acceptance

And neither should we. God created us each to uniquely fill a role in bringing Him glory. We can’t do that by hiding how He made us, compromising His commands, or worrying about what what the cool kids will say.

If we are rejected for living as Christ did, we are in good company.

Instead of letting rejection reign supreme in our lives, let’s remember our inheritance of eternal acceptance in the Kingdom. Let’s stop trying to avoid rejection by compromising who we were created to be and start living like the dearly loved daughters of the King we are.

Food for Thought

Which rejections sting the most? How might embracing your eternal acceptance help you overcome the pain of rejection? Looking back, can you see God’s protection in circumstances where you faced man’s rejection? How might it embolden you live more courageously? 

For more encouragment, see: Psalm 27:10, 1 John 3:1, Romans 8:38-39, Ephesians 3:18-19, Ephesians 6:7, Colossians 3:23-24, Hebrews 4:15, Romans 8:17, Matthew 19:27-30, Romans 12:2.

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Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You for Your incomprehensible plan to win eternal acceptance for me through Your own Son’s rejection. Forgive me for all the times I have forgotten what it cost You to make peace with me. Comfort me when the sting of earthly rejection rears it’s ugly head. Help me by Your Holy Spirit to break free from rejections reign in my life and instead live courageously as Your daughter and rightful co-heir with Christ of Your Kingdom. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.


Linking Up With

For more encouragement please join the discussions on these fabulous blog link ups – Suzanne EllerFaith On FireSusan B. MeadFaith Filled FridayGrace and TruthFaith and Fellowship FridaySoul SurvivalRah Rah Link UpTell His StorySitting Among FriendsTestimony TuesdayPlanting Roots, and Fresh Market FridaySalt and Light, and Becoming Press’s Writer Wednesday,  Moments of Hope


Reduce Rejection's Reign

13 thoughts on “Reduce Rejection’s Reign and Reclaim Your Rightful Place

  1. I love the way your fiery heart bounced back after that writerly rejection. This writing life is such a risk that way, and we need God’s protection, as well as the encouragement of our writing friends, so thanks for all the times you are that encouraging voice to others!

    1. I just had to remind myself of this again very recently, too! Some lessons are harder to learn than others! Thank you for your kind words! It’s my prayer that I can Shine His light everywhere! Blessings!

  2. Good stuff here, Liz. If even Jesus was rejected, we shouldn’t take it so personally when we are. Love this: “When faced with man’s rejection, look for God’s protection.”

    1. Yes!!! I needed to remind myself of this again recently! This world is full of rejection, but we know something better is waiting for us in eternity! Blessings!

    1. I just have to condition my mind to look for God’s protection in those times of rejection and to remember my eternal acceptance! Thanks for sharing, friend! Blessings!

  3. Rejection is definitely part of the writing life, but more than that all of life. As you said Jesus was rejected and we shouldn’t expect to be better than our Master. But knowing that we’re fully accepted in the beloved makes all the difference or it should if we truly understand what that means. Even so, rejection is never easy, but we can take heart that God is using it for our good and His glory! Thanks for writing on an important subject.

    1. It is a tough topic…. We’ve just got to condition our feeble flesh to remember the truth! Amen! Thanks for stopping by, Donna! Blessings!

    1. Thanks, Elicia! I think it’s important to remember that we were wired for community, therefor vulnerable to rejection here on earth. That’s why our eternal acceptance is so critical! Blessings, friend!

  4. Thank you for reminding us of our true value! There is amazing freedom in knowing that His approval is the only one that really matters.

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