When Drudgery Dulls Dreams

As women, we seem to face obstacles men never do. They are expected to do big things and chase their dreams. But often once women marry and have children, the demands placed on them sometimes feel less than dreamy.

Diapers. Dishes. Dusting. Doctors appointments.

For some of you that may be your dream. If that’s you, by all means… Live. It. Up.

But for other’s it sounds more like drudgery when the bulk of the demands of daily living default to the fairer sex.

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There will be days when the dream is obscured by a mountain of reality. It can be so easy to lose sight of our dreams when overwhelming demands rule our days. In fact, I’d venture to say the drudgery of every day life has been the death of many a dream. Even the difficulties of doing the dream can dull it’s shine. We’ll take more about that in a couple of weeks.

Who really has the time or energy for dreaming after dog duty, dry cleaning drop off, and driving carpool?

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Please hear my heart on this. I’m not suggesting we should dream our lives away. We must remain present in the present. Even when it’s discouraging. The people God has placed in our present need us to be present. He wouldn’t want it any other way.

So, how do we remain present in the present and still dream for the future?

Let’s take a look at one of my favorite women of the Bible for some answers – Ruth. I’m sure she had aspirations beyond caring for her dead husband’s aging mother. I think she hoped for a better life when she followed Naomi back to Bethlehem. Yet, gleaning grain in the fields so they could survive seems like the picture of drudgery to me. The hardships she endured no doubt developed her character. And Boaz noticed her faithful work ethic and loving devotion to supporting the older woman. It was His admiration that eventually led to her redemption. Ruth constantly did the right thing. And that landed her a place in Jesus’ genealogy.

Demonstrate faithfulness in all your daily duties. Keep doing the next right thing. No matter how difficult or demeaning it may seem. Honor God in all you do, even the drudgery.

Embrace drudgery’s ability to develop. Every hardship we encounter has the potential to produce Godly character in us.

Remember current circumstances are temporary. Babies potty train and eventually drive themselves to and from their activities. Some day you will have more time for doing the dream God placed in your heart.

Dream. Don’t lose sight of the dream. If God planted it in your heart, some day He’ll put you in a position to pursue it. As an added bonus, continuing to dream inspires others to look beyond their current circumstances.

When you feel bogged down my life’s demands, demonstrate faithfulness, embrace the development, remember things change, and don’t lose sight of your dream.

Perhaps, what you consider drudgery today, may just be a delay. And God has a purpose for every detour and delay of our dreams. Come back next week and find out what to do during a delay.

Consider creating a Motivational MASTERPIECE to help you visualize you dream when daily demands obscure it.


Don’t miss the other great posts in this series:

Daring to Dream

Discovering the Dream

Dreaming with a Dose of Discernment

Doing the Dream

Dreaming Doesn’t Mean Discontent

When Drudgery Dulls Dreams

When Dreams are Delayed

Death of Dream

Laying Down the Dream

And coming Soon:

Dreaming is all Dandelions and Daffodils

(re)Designing the Dream

Living the Dream

Dare to Dream Again



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24 thoughts on “When Drudgery Dulls Dreams

  1. I’d never thought of Ruth as a dreamer before, and it’s absolutely for the reason your post centers on: she was completely absorbed in the tasks that sustained life! Like us! May we find grace to turn our eyes toward the God who inspires our dreams and makes them come true while we are in the midst of giving ourselves away to those we love and care for every day.

  2. This is so timely for me right now, because I am in the midst of the drudgery of diapers and doctor’s appointments. But in the midst of all of that, I am still living the dream God placed on my heart–to be a wife and mom! I truly want to enjoy this season of life I am currently in, knowing that the Lord will open up doors for the other dreams I have of doing women’s ministry in the future. I love how you said, “God has a purpose for every detour and delay of our dreams.” So true! Thanks for sharing!

  3. I am encouraged by your wise outlook. Every season shall too pass, may we understand the futility of diaper changes and dog duty (doodie? Haha)… the Lord uses each season in His perfect purpose. Be faithful in the little things… that’s a great encouragement. Be blessed!

  4. So loving your Dream series, Liz! I’m following God for one of my dreams and it’s been a long road. Though there have been many days of nitty-gritty stuff, I’m thankful to have the opportunity to pursue a dream God has planted in my heart. Linking with you at #MondayMinute from Planting Roots.

  5. Honoring God where you are seems to be the path of the dreamer, doesn’t it? When we’re able to accept where we are, we’re in a position to know it’s not about us, but Him. — Great insight when you point out that when we move forward despite our circumstances, it inspires others to do the same. 🙂 Look forward to hearing next week. 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your words with #ChasingCommunity. ((xoxo))

  6. I love this, Liz! I’ve had all these thoughts so many times – and love your encouragement to push through it. All things I’ve worked myself through the hard way. I need to print these out and put on my bathroom mirror as a reminder each morning!

  7. Liz, I gave up my career 17 years ago to come home, and care for my family, and homeschool my boys. I am so thankful that I did and wouldn’t have changed it for all the world, but had no I idea of how difficult those years would be. My homeschooling years are coming to an end, and God is doing a new life in my life. I am dreaming BIG for the first time in a long time! In fact this week I have been challenged to dream far beyond all that I can ask or think! Hugs, Misty

  8. This comment is for When Dreans Are Delayed. Drudgery Dull Dreams coveted the Post Comment button.

    I’ve become a fan of your dream posts. I totally relate with what you shared here. I’ve been running my ddoctorate programme for so long and in my line of work, not getting that terminal degree delays everything else. I’m believing God to clear the hurdles. Thanks for the insights shared here and keep up the good work.

    Now for this one. It’s easy to give up on our dreams when we are weighed down by routine and seemingly insignificant activities. Keeping a journal helps, something we can look at from time to time as a reminder. And I like the point about faithfulness in the small, routine things. I believe that whatever is worth doing is worth doing well and when the time and opportunity to do the great things we desire come, we’ll be able to do them excellently. Thank you.

    1. Thank you, Edith! Did you find When Dreams are Delayed. I believe, God could be making everything just right for you to finish your doctorate! He is always working in ways we cannot even fathom! Praying for you today!

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