I recently had a project I knew I wanted to do, but the amount of work I assumed would be required left me feeling too overwhelmed to start. It wasn’t that I lacked a vision or desire. I had plenty of both. I even knew what my first few steps would be.
When What’s Required Outweighs the Desire
I wanted to transform our spare bedroom into a
I knew the first step was to donate, dispose of, or otherwise disappear all the stuff. But every time I thought about all the other steps. Choosing a paint color, painting, deciding how to arrange the space, picking and hanging curtains, maybe swapping out the ceiling fan for the light fixture in our room that was more in line with my vision, figuring out how to accessorize and make the space meet my needs. I wanted a little bit of fancy with a whole lot of function. And I wasn’t sure I could pull it all off. I was afraid I’d just make an even bigger mess.
So I never even bothered to start. If I didn’t start, I couldn’t fail, right?
Where do you fear failure?
I’ve been in this same place in too many areas of my life. From housework to
Can you relate?
Maybe you want to go back to school an earn your degree or you’re considering adoption. Perhaps you want to break a bad habit or make a good one. You might even desire to mend fences with a family member or estranged friend or start studying the Bible. But the time and effort that will surely be required seem too daunting.
Too Overwhelmed to Start
At some point or another we all face something that leaves us feeling too overwhelmed to start.
But I shared my vision with a friend and she graciously agreed to help. Not just in words, but in actions. She used her experience to educate me and she put her expertise to work. Then, she not only checked in on my progress, she also showed up in painting clothes with a roller in hand. And we had a lot of fun along the way!
Now we have a fully functional guest bed room that doubles as a pretty place for me to work. And as an added bonus, we have reclaimed the kitchen table as a place to eat or share a cup of coffee since I’m no longer working there. Perhaps even more profound, though, is my confidence in this kind of thing has skyrocketed. In fact, I’ve already tackled another home improvement project that’s been falling to the bottom of my To Do List for far too long.
What did all this teach me?
When you’re too overwhelmed to take the first step, find someone who understands to walk beside you. Even when it feels like no one else will, trust that God always does. He has promised to never leave nor forsake us. That alone should fill us with the courage to take on whatever challenges we face. He gives us His strength to take the first step and to get through challenges one day at a time.
But He also made us for community. First with Him then with others He places in our lives to support and encourage us. He created Eve for Adam and partnered Aaron with Moses. Caleb and Joshua stuck together. Ruth refused to abandon Naomi. Jesus sent the Apostles out in pairs. He also reminds us that we ought not fail to provide material support to our brothers and sisters in need. And Paul encourages us to continue gathering together to spur one another on in faith and good works.
Let’s Start Together