A Woman’s Worth: More than What’s in the Mirror

I'm going to tell you a secret. 

Something I don't share with too many people. Which is silly because it is impossible to hide.

It is, by far, the biggest thing that keeps me from feeling worthy. Worthy of my calling, or my blessings, or my husband's love.

I'm fat.

Those are hard words to type. But it is true. At my last well woman exam, my doctor asked me when I was going to try to lose some weight. She didn't even ask if I'd been trying or feign concern over how the number on the scale impacts my overall health. It was as if she assumed I didn't realize I had gotten fat or perhaps I didn't care. Neither of those could be farther from the truth. I can't not notice. And I'm certain everybody else notices, too.

I wonder every time I open my mouth or click away at my keyboard if my message is tarnished by my appearance. If I'm worth less because I weigh more.

It's not that I don't treasure this temple. But I won’t idolize it an attempt to conform to what society values.

I absolutely believe I have an obligation to care for my body which is a temple for God's Holy Spirit. I must be physically capable of walking where God leads me. But I don't have to be a size six to do it. Perhaps this is my thorn, to use Paul's metaphor. Maybe this keeps me humble. I can be OK with that, but I cannot allow it to steal my perceived worth for even one second more.

The Value We Cannot See

We cannot allow our body image to determine our worth. Nor should we tolerate physical appearance as the sole factor in determining the value of others, either. Look around you. People come in all shapes and sizes and colors. Diseases and deformities transform people into barely recognizable shells of themselves.

We aren't worth more when we weigh less. Having properly proportioned measurements, perfectly aligned eyes, flawless creamy skin, cut calves, or a tight tush doesn't increase our worth.

What we see in the mirror doesn't make us more valuable in God's eyes.

Unfortunately, our outward appearance is the first thing people notice about us. Society has conditioned us to believe our worth is found in what's visible. The fitness, fashion, and beauty industries have declared what is good but hardly anybody measures up. Yet, we constantly make assumptions about ourselves and others based on outward appearance.

We women are so hard on our outward appearance. I bet you could list off 27 things you dislike about your body without much trouble at all. And we spend so much time and effort and money trying to 'fix' our flaws to make ourselves appear more worthy. But God's Word says that it is our inward beauty that He treasures.

The treasure hidden inside this earthen vessel is what God values.

All too often we assume someone is qualified or worthy based on their outward appearance. It has been a problem since the early days. When the Israelite people decided they needed a king, they chose Saul because he was strong and tall and good looking. But he turned out to be an awful, disobedient, and prideful king. Then, to the surprise of many God sent the priest Samuel to anoint David, a scrawny, young, shepherd boy who looked nothing like a potential king to succeed Saul.

'But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him.

The Lord does not look at the things people look at.

People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.'

1 Samuel 16:7 NIV

God doesn't see as man sees. He sees straight into our hearts. My soul is what concerns Him, not this earthen vessel it currently occupies. In fact, when Jesus comes again I'm going to finally get the perfect body – whatever that looks like.

Our outward appearance should never be our greatest contribution to society.

Our contributions to our families, friends, community, and the body of Christ are worth more than the letters on the tag in our shirt or the number on the scale or the reflection in the mirror.

Looking like a runway model doesn't make us any more qualified to share the gospel. So, our spiritual fitness must come first. Let’s focus more on reflecting Christ to others than on our own reflection in the mirror.

We are worth more than

what we see in the mirror.

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Don’t miss the other great posts in this series:

A Woman’s Worth

More Than the Money I Make

More Than My Mothering

More Than My MESSES

More Than I Can Be

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40 thoughts on “A Woman’s Worth: More than What’s in the Mirror

  1. This is a great reminder as I struggle with this as well. I love the reminder that our worth is not based on the outward appearance, though this is what the world sees and seems to value. The story of David and his outward appearance is a great tie-in. He must have seemed anything but “kingly” or “worthy” as he clunked around in Saul’s armor! Stopping by from #DanceWithJesus – have a great weekend!

    1. Thanks, Rebekah. I knew I wasn’t the only one who struggles with her reflection. In fact, I don’t even think it is a struggle only “fat” women face. Blessings!

  2. Liz, you’ve nailed a lifelong struggle for me. God is building the truth into my heart and mind, but it’s taken decades of refocusing and falling backward and starting over. Now, in my fifties, I jokingly say that it’s not as hard for me to absorb the aging process as it is for women who were really beautiful in their youth because I don’t have as much to lose! Funny how God graces us out in ways we don’t expect.

    1. When God’s grace is unexpected, I think it is that much sweeter! I’d like to believe that as we age, we finally start to see things from a perspective closer to God’s. Blessings, friend!

  3. Beautiful! Every word! Completely true! Thank-you for the reminder Liz. Lately, the enemy has attacked me in this area. “You’re fat! You’ve put on wait! You’re getting old! You feel old, don’t you? Your hair is thinning! You have bags under your eyes! No matter how much you exercise, it’s not enough because your diet will never be right. etc…..” And the list goes on. He whispers these words to throw me off balance, to keep from focusing on what God has already told me and established in my heart. Every once in a while, I need to be realigned with the truth. Thank-you for the much needed adjustment. <3

    1. Me, too, Misty! That’s how I know it’s a much needed message! Keep focusing on truth… and keep reminding me of it! XO

  4. Liz, you are right on!!! And so many neeeeed this message. The WHOLE WORLD needs this message! Society may not stop putting the pressure on our appearance, but God has always been counter cultural! It is our privilege as sons and daughters of the kings to measure ourselves by a different standard. We are who God says we are, waist line does not matter. Woo Hoo!!!

  5. Liz, this is so great. Thank you so much for your encouraging words! We truly are more than what we see in the mirror! Thank you for reminding each and every one of us how much we are worth to Him and thank you for the scripture cards! We’re neighbors today on #RaRaLinkup!

  6. This was such a lift to me today! I know these things you shared, and yet I often forget them. I get so distracted by not liking to image in the mirror that I stifle the Voice inside of me, reminding me that I’m fearfully & wonderfully made. Thanks for this!!

  7. (( Liz )) What a sweet post. Thank you for spilling your vulnerabilities here and for trusting us with them. Your words always bless. — The outward thing that I feel diminishes my worth in the world’s eyes — is seemingly odd, but — it’s the fact that I look so much younger than my age. So often I’m discounted as someone younger who doesn’t have the experience to know things. Thanks for the reminder that it’s not the world’s eye I’m after, but God’s, and — I already have His. Happy sigh. 🙂 Hope all is going well on the moving front. Wish I could tangibly help, but know I’m praying. ((xoxo))

    1. Thank you, Brenda! My husband has the same sort of issue about his youthful looks… It’s tough to look like you mean business in front of Soldiers when you look as young as most of them! Keep praying about the move… we need all the prayers we can get. House hunting has proven tricky! Blessings, friend!

  8. How I wish society didn’t place such value on outer appearance. I think it would be nice if wrinkles and grey hair were looked upon as beautiful instead of something we work so hard to get rid of. Thank you for your encouraging words!

  9. Liz, such transparency and such honesty. Truly encouraging and refreshing to have someone voice what so many of us struggle with.
    Blessings, Lureta

  10. Love, love, love this!!! Such a good and important reminder. We have to know our worth comes from Jesus. I struggle with body image, but deep down I know the truth. Thanks for sharing your heart.

  11. Liz, I’m fat too. And, I too, hate it. I have always been thin until 2007 and then for some unbeknownst reason (and I mean this) everything changed. I think the issue isn’t we are fat but why are we fat? Are we binge eating? Stuffing ourselves with sugary sweets and worthless carbs? THOSE are the questions I ask. I eat healthy. I am not a sugar person. I do not eat a lot of carbs. This “thing” has plagued me and makes me nuts. I’ve prayed and sought the Lord. So what’s a girl to do? xoxoxo

    1. Oh, Susan! That sounds a lot like my situation. I often ponder the idea that my body image is similar to Paul’s thorn and keeps me humble. I’ve committed to doing the best I can while not idolizing a particular number on the scale or size in my jeans and trust God with the rest! Blessings!

  12. “Our contributions to our families, friends, community, and the body of Christ are worth more than the letters on the tag in our shirt or the number on the scale or the reflection in the mirror.” I love this! I often struggle about my appearance.. and this was a gentle reminder for me this weekend!

  13. What a wonderful series! I love it. My own blog runs along the same thread, as you’ve seen. Women can possess such strength, and we are willing to trust that it comes from God. Yet we can be so vulnerable to opinions. Why do we not see that our worth comes from God as well?! Thank you for encouraging us all!

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